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This book is based on my personal experiences with survivors. Survivors are the people left behind after a loved one dies. An inescapable part of living is dying. I have experienced, and enjoyed, nearly three decades of pastoral ministry to people who have lost loved ones to death. All the accounts contained herein are factual. I have not included people s names on purpose, to protect the privacy of people involved.

Please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of your loved one or loved ones.

It is my prayer that you the reader, you the survivor, will benefit from reading this book. It is my hope and desire that you are able to process your grief with fewer doubts, and less anxiety; knowing that what you are experiencing is common to everyone who loses a loved one. After reading the chapters, I hope, and pray that you will be determined to live a rich, full life once again.

God bless you in your grief journey, and in your recovery.

Malignant cancers crash across all the lines of goodness, fairness, faith, love, 'quality of life' and ultimately life itself. Apollo's journey through malignant cancer, hand in paw, is the poignant story of a loving owner, dog and their battle to achieve quality of life for both of them. Apollo speaks through the eyes and emotions of his loving companion as she passionately describes her compelling drive and urgency to help them both, unconditionally. As it turns out, Apollo's creed of life becomes focused upon both his and her 'quality of life.' With unspoken determination 'he' becomes the teacher 'teaching' that cancer is not about dying but learning to live the best life possible. Apollo 'teaches' that the 'will to live' is a powerful force. At the same time the dynamics of bonding and spiritual attachment become powerfully defined. The patient and the caretakers work feverishly to gain an understanding of the mechanisms of disease and the properties of healing: mentally and physically. Loud and clear, from compassionate touches to the pursuit of learning, the patient and his devoted owner experience a deepening and ever widening bond of love and compassion.

~H.C. (Doc) Gurney, D.V.M.

The baby boomers are finally at the door step of becoming old timers and that brings with it lots of concerns, not the least of which is, "Am I over the hill sexually?" We think back on how we viewed our parents in fact our grand parents - when we were youngsters, teens, young couples and thought, "Could those old people still be doing it?" What's worse, we probably thought, "They couldn't be... what a gross thought!"

You bet they were, and in most cases they still are - doing it more than you'd ever have guessed. Furthermore, there isn't anything gross about it!

The fact is that the human animal is normally sexually active to the day it dies. Note we said normally. That is a very significant word. It means that if you are not sexually active it is not the norm.

Up until a few years ago, most of us thought it normal for sex to become less and less important after the age of 50 or 60. That's because no one asked the people who were over the ages of 50 or 60. But now that more people are living to be 70, 80, 90, and 100, we are starting to notice and ask. Research with the elderly shows quite clearly that sex is as important as ever; and quite frequently and happily more fun than ever. We should all be delighted to find that out because it gives us
lots to look forward to.

It also means that if you are not keeping up with the good old Jones's you should be checking it out.
Remember, the norm is that you should be getting it and enjoying it for a long time to come, and if you aren't, you should be questioning why not. In the great majority of cases what ever is stopping you can be remedied.

Sex in the Golden Years - the practice - is great and you should be staying sexually active for the rest of your life!

Sex in the Golden Years - the book - has the purpose of dispeling lots of the old myths and help us continue to be active and happy participants in nature's greatest gift.

Like our grandmother used to say; "If the good Lord didn't want us to do it, He wouldn't have made it feel so good!"